Cream or Sludge- Choose!

 

This quote.

Albert Einstein?  Since then, many have claimed it as their quote - Tony Robinson, Henry Ford, etc.

Change.  Change is positive because it's when you stop doing what is not working anymore.  It's accepting that you cannot change a situation that does not work anymore.  It's not failure.  

Leaving something is a stage and there is a grief that goes with it because there is a loss.  It doesn't matter if it was a positive ending or a difficult ending - there is loss.  Now granted, some people fill it with gratitude and others bitterness.  The reality probably lays somewhere in the middle.

I will share what I have learned in my first stage of transition - the cream rises to the top and the sludge sinks to the bottom.  You really see people's true inner self during transitions.  The cream is full of kindness, gratitude, love and genuine sincerity.  The cream is light and love.  It is the pillow for the cherry which comes later. 

The sludge is the ego.  It's the ugly, the unkind, the bitter, the remnant.  It's the person who pays you a backhanded compliment or gives an opinion which is based on their own ego or filter.  There is no gratitude in it given- words to excuse one's own behavior or short comings.  Those words are not said to lift you up, they are said to hurt you or put you down.  You have a choice.  You can let it weigh you down or you can watch it sink.  

I am a huge believe in "fake until you feel it."   You sink with the sludge or you rise with the cream.

As in all difficult times, we choose.

Oh -it's not black and white.  There are moments you think about sinking with the sludge.  You just know that you can make sure the sludge reaches depths it has never seen before.

But if you are a good person, if you believe in the grace of God, if you walk the walk and if you really care about others- you look forward and you rise to the top.  There is always room for more cream.  Always.  Be the cream.